I have always lived my life, with the philosophy, "What goes around, comes around"....what you give out will come back to you ten-fold. I have been through a lot in my life...I have had my fair share of injustice, many "woe-is-me" moments....I have been through 2 divorces and truly experienced hell on earth. My first marriage, was to a man much, much older than me...I married young, at 19..had babies right away, and lost my true identity, as pretty much everything revolved around this man...his job, his sports, his friends...I was 700 miles away from home, no family, no friends...then one day, I got a job, made friends and discovered, just like Reba in her video "is there life out there", that yes ,indeed there was life out there...and I realized I had fallen out of love with my husband, and I couldn't be in a one sided marriage any longer...so, I asked for divorce, and after a fight for my life for my kids (he put me through a year long custody battle), I came out victorious with custody of my two boys.
Then, I fell into the trap of feeling like I needed another man in my life...and through mutual friends, met husband number two. Husband number two turned out to be a wolf in sheep clothing...went from working a high paying job, to jobless, with a drug addiction and a penchant for taking out all of his frustrations on me..with his fists...and on my boys...I ended up pregnant with my third child and saw no way out...He didn't work for two years, I was the soul provider, did all the household chores, raising the children, everything...all the while daily taking his verbal, mental and physical abuse...eventually, after 5 years of enduring his abuse, which led to his subsequent arrest...I finally saw the light and got out! Thank God I did....that divorce was brutal too...I lost my house, lost my car and just about took my life....Thank God for my children, as they were what kept me going.
While going through that divorce, I met the love of my life..my knight in shining armour..my current husband...of 8 wonderful years....he literally saved me...he found me, I believe through Karma...and literally lifted me up, saved me from my despair and showed me what true love really is.
He too made a lot of bad choices in his life...settling for a woman older than him, not happy...we both believe that we had to go through all the hardships we went through in order for the stars to align and lead us to one another....
I have never been happier...sure, we have our fair share of arguments as any couple will...but at the end of the day, we always settle and work things out. I love him more than any mere words can say. The only unhappiness we ever have in our lives are financial...
Due to divorce, on both of our sides...we have spent many years trying to financially get on our feet. I get no child support from ex number 2, but my husband takes care of his step-son, and our son together...treating them both equally and with love. He is a hard worker and a good provider...we do without a lot..heck, I have no stove and haven't had one for almost this entire year....but, we make it work...slowly paying our bills down, so that we can get a stove, but pay cash for it. We do not use credit....it has killed us in the past...so, we struggle...
A few weeks ago, I got a phone call from Ex-husband number 1, just retired from a high paying job with the government...unbeknownst to me...as his wife of 8 years, thanks to a crafty divorce attorney, I was entitled to a percentage of his retirement....he called me to let me know this. We are on good terms, friends and have a good "divorced" relationship...He said I should be expecting to get a check for quite a large sum of money...he wasn't very happy about it...and you know what, I didn't hesitate at all, not once to tell him, that money is not mine...that it wasn't right and would not be right for me to take it. He was very grateful. I felt our friendship, the relationship we have with each other and our kids was way to valuable to tarnish over money...so, we went to an attorney, and had it changed. 2 checks were already on their way to me. So, I agreed to sign them over and give them back to him.
All the while knowing how much that money would help my immediate family. Wednesday, I got the first huge check. Holding it in my hand, I couldn't help but think...man, this is a new stove, plenty of food to fill my cupboards, clothes for my kids, Christmas, etc...so, I put it in the bank, then turned around and wrote a check to the husband for the exact amount, of which I will give him tomorrow when I pick up our son...
Now, back to the Karma thing....as I said, we could have used that money so much...and by law, I was entitled to it...but, because I did the right thing, what my heart told me I should do...Karma paid me back.
Our local radio station has been hosting a contest...called "Show me the money"...anytime you hear that phrase, you call in, be caller number 9, you have your name entered for a chance to win $500...I have been trying for weeks..and last night, on my way home from the gym, I started calling...after 4 busy signals, I just about gave up, but thought...nope, one more time...I am calling once more..and I be darned, if I wasn't caller number 9...as the D.J. was congratulating me, telling me my name had been entered for the drawing to be held on Friday morning(this morning) and I had won a gift certificate just for being the correct caller, for a massage, then he told me to hold on, so he could get my information...as I was holding, my cell phone went dead...I was freaking out...I was a mile from home, so I zoomed home, ran in the house, grabbed the phone and called the station back. The D.J. laughed, when I told him my cell phone had died, assured me it was good, took my info, told me to be listening Friday morning for the name of the winner in the drawing.
Hubby joked with me when I told him, told me there was no chance I would win...I told him he was wrong...I just had this feeling. This morning, I brought a radio to work, had it right by my desk..at 8 45 a.m...the D.J started the drawing, and lo and behold, he called my name! I sat there for a second in shocked silence...then realized I had only seconds to call back...I was shaking....I couldn't believe that I had just won $500...it took forever for the D.J. to answer the phone...but, he confimed my idenity and the $500 is mine. $500 is no where near the amount of the check I gave back to the ex..but, beggars can't be choosers..that was the amount that I was intended to have...and I am oh so grateful. It will really help with our bills and maybe an extra little treat for the two little ones..
So, see..back to karma...what goes around comes around...do the right thing and eventually, you will reap your just rewards...weather they be a monetary financial windfall or finally meeting that soul mate that you are entitled to...
Have a good weekend everyone!
2 comments:
That's a great post. It's always nice to get a little background story from the people I follow.
Good on you for being so reasonable about the financial business with the ex. When faced with temptation, you opted for what was morally right :)
And congratulations on winning the $500. That is awesome! I've never won anything, but that won't stop me playing the lottery every week :)
Mark, I appreciate it. As far as the $500 goes...yeah, felt pretty good. Haven't gotten it yet...supposed to be sending a check..lol..so much for the "instant" cash they promised.
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